What You Value is What You'll Have [Faithfulness] - Part 5

In the word faithfulness (faithfulness) the following meanings are contained: trusting one another, having confidence in one another, having assurance about one another's character so that each can be relied upon, being certain of one another's faithfulness, being honest with one another (as you are), being permanent for one another, and being a place of rest for one another.

Our understanding of faithfulness is generally too shallow, limited only to the physical. Yet in married life, it often happens that a couple remains physically faithful but is no longer emotionally faithful. They are faithful with their bodies, but no longer faithful in their hearts. These couples can no longer trust and be confident in one another. There is only a little trust, a little certainty, and a little security.

In fact, faithfulness covers every area, not only the physical. Being a faithful spouse means you can be trusted that things will be kept/done. This may mean being physically (sexually) faithful, but it can also mean faithfully carrying out daily responsibilities. It can also mean getting home on time from work, it can also be the certainty that the children will be picked up from school, household needs will be bought, it can also mean being free to share thoughts and feelings without fear of being punished. In essence, you receive certainty and a sense of security that what must be done will be done.

Things That Separate a Couple

Faithfulness, of course, means that you will not be separated from one another. Physical unfaithfulness means giving yourself physically to someone else outside the marriage bond. But you can also engage in emotional unfaithfulness. This means intentionally withdrawing your heart and part of yourself from the marriage relationship. For example, you give more of your energy and time to a hobby/job than to your marriage relationship.

The "object" of unfaithfulness can take many forms...it can be a person or other things. But the main point to emphasize is that it separates (stands between) you and your spouse.

Usually these things begin to appear when a relationship faces a crisis that requires growth (character work) and the people involved do not have enough courage to face it. In the end, they avoid it by turning elsewhere.

There Is No Excuse

Most husbands will make excuses like this, "If only she had not acted that way, surely I would not have done this." Or usually the wives' excuse is, "If only my husband could understand my needs..."

None of those excuses even come close to the truth. The act of being unfaithful is actually the decision of one person, not two parties. As 2 Timothy 2:13 says, "If we are faithless, He remains faithful, for He cannot deny Himself." God will not become unfaithful, even when we do not love Him rightly. He will remain faithful regardless of whatever we do. This is the kind of decision that is needed in a marriage. Do not make your spouse's failure to love you an excuse for your unfaithfulness.

Instead, make a mutual commitment that neither of you will let anything become a barrier, that you will be able to rely on one another, that both of you will be faithful physically as well as emotionally.

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